With SMP as soon as we add the new sockfd to the fds table, in the
case we load-balanced the fd on to a different pt, service on it
becomes live immediately and concurrently. This can lead to the
unexpected situation that while we think we're still initing the
new wsi from our thread, it can have lived out its whole life
concurrently from another service thread.
Add a volatile flag to inform the owning pt that if it wants to
service the wsi during this init window, it must wait and retry
next time around the event loop.
On h1, cgi stdout close doesn't prompt the http close, instead it
times out. Fix that so we also close on h1, and make the close
action itself on http timeout less drastic.
As it was, GnuTLS actually marks the close as a fatal TLS error.
